You might have had all of your plans for your wedding carefully & precisely roadmapped… and right now, the word ‘roadmap’ might well feel like an icepick of fear & frustration through your nerve-endings (here in the UK we’re on Roadmap #4 of easing lockdown and it’s not looking great…)
If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere not only blessed with lovely weather but also a sensible plan for tackling the pandemic (looking directly at you, Australia & New Zealand 👀🦘), then a get-together with all of your friends and family might not seem quite so far-fetched as it does to the rest of us in the US and the UK.
However, there are still good reasons to maybe consider keeping your wedding small and intimate:
Mo’ peeps, mo’ probs
Having a lot of people, particularly extended families, can very quickly become a logistical nightmare. Maybe there are cousins that had a falling out, which spilled over into your aunt & uncle falling out with your other aunt & uncle, so they can’t sit near each other… but then you’ve got your friend Becky who’s bringing her partner; but they used to go out with your partner’s maid of honour, so they can’t even look at one another… ugh. You see what I mean?
Keeping things small & intimate with just a few special guests can not only help avoid exactly these kinds of logistical nightmares, but also make everything feel a lot cosier and more special as a result.
No money? No worries.
As has been mentioned in at least one of our previous posts about cost-effective catering: many hungry mouths cost a lot to feed. If your budget is tight, then limiting the number of people at the Wedding Breakfast is a very easy way to bring down some of those costs dramatically. And for those you still want to see, but don’t necessarily want to splash out on, you can always invite them to the evening portion. In fact I’ve even been to a wedding where I got invited to the ceremony, but the Wedding Breakfast was just for family, so I went back home, got changed and returned the evening celebration, ready to party-as-a-verb 🥳
The elephant in the room
At the moment of writing, the UK, the US and many other countries around the world are still suffering the short- and long-term effects of the ongoing pandemic. And honestly? For weddings (as well as many other things!), it really, really sucks.
But we should all still remain as safe as possible, and if you’re still eager to get married on a set date, then there are still lots of ways for your guests to attend virtually (and of course, buy you some gifts at the same time 😉).
There are obvious options like Zoom – but remember that unless you have a paid account, you’re limited to just 40 minutes per session. Unless your bridesmaids or registrar are happy restarting your session to connect with the dozens (or maybe even hundreds!) of people who want to watch, you might want to consider an alternative.
You can also go Live with apps like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and a whole host of others, streaming your celebrations instantaneously for everyone to watch from the safety of their own homes, all while being in to share in your weddingy joy (weddingy? Is that a word? Well now it is). The only issue you’ve got is whether certain family members (*cough*DAD*cough*) might be resistant to downloading & signing up to an they don’t already have… or even using one they’ve had for a while.
However you choose to get everyone together, remember that the only important thing is that you can celebrate the that you want, with the people you love – whether they’re near or far. ❤